How NOT To Get and Stay Sober

Published January 27, 2020 by:
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We hear a lot about how to get sober. We hear about what will help. We rarely hear about what will not.

The biggest barrier is you. Right now, you’re saying “did he really say that?” Yes, I said it. I didn’t say the usual “you have to be willing”, “you have to want it”, “trust god”,” “I guess you’re not finished”, “you don’t want it bad enough”, “go do some more research”, “take a leap of faith”, or any other nonsense.

Let’s look at what the so-called “normal people” and conventional thinking tells us about addiction. “You just need to get healthy”,
“good people don’t drink like that”, “you need Jesus”, “go to the gym”, “maybe you should move”, “throw yourself into your work”, ” you just need to cut down”, “you can still smoke pot and drink, just stop the other stuff”, “grow up”, and the ever-famous “just stop.”

The truth is I was I was never willing, I never wanted it, I don’t trust your gods, and the only leap I was willing to make was to the refrigerator. Yet, I’m 10 years sober. And after being sober a while, I’ve discovered my attitude and thinking was the norm and not the exception.

What Did I Do to Get Sober?

I was given the opportunity to go to rehab and I took it. As a good alcoholic/addict I of course was deeply offended at the offer at first and told the guy to go F himself. How dare someone offer me help for a problem I didn’t have. Who do they think they are! The audacity.

So, we’re not going to stop drinking and using by cutting back or practicing moderation. Literally anything we keep using eventually brings us back to what we really want. We are not moderate drinkers. We are not moderate opiate users. There are no casual heroin users. A couple of drinks was never enough for us. We are pedal to the floor, full-throttle addicted. I don’t know a heroin user that has stayed satisfied with a few beers and a joint now and then. I do know a few that have tried to do it, but I don’t know anyone who has successfully done that for long periods of time. We can all go on Facebook and people will swear they know that guy and everyone is full of sh*t, but when asked about the details of that guy, let’s just be nice and say the details are quite sketchy. And it’s more like wishful thinking than fact. We all want our drug of choice, and all roads eventually lead back to our drug of choice.

Can Clean Eating Make You Sober?

We’re not going to stop drinking or drugging by changing our diet. No one got sober by doing keto. No one got sober by becoming a vegan. But the vegans will still constantly tell you about being a vegan all day, like a newcomer telling you about how spiritual they are now after they related to a share in a meeting. Or how they now lead everyone in saying grace at McDonalds over their ‘blessed’ egg McMuffin. Paleo won’t stop you from doing meth. Pre-workout will not help you with cravings. Literally nothing sold at GNC will keep you from drinking. The organic raw juice bar’s $18 drink, although delicious and good for you, will not stop you from withdrawing from heroin.

No amount of exercise will get you sober. It doesn’t matter that you are ripped with abs of steel, shredded beyond belief; muscle mass will not defend you from addiction. No matter what your ‘roid selling trainer tells you.

Honestly, I don’t want to even touch the subject of people telling you can detox with Ibogaine or Kratom or Kava. The facts are they don’t work, Ibogaine studies show they actually make opiate/opioid detox worse. And if any of these things were safe and effective, detoxes would use them because they’re cheaper. Insurers would be paying for it. It’s also why CBD and cannabis are being tested to help with withdrawal symptoms, but not as a replacement for detox medications.

But wait there’s more!

Here’s the good news. Exercise and a good, healthy diet will help you once you get sober. It helps you stay balanced. It helps you with a new healthy lifestyle, a new way of living. It’s hard to stay sober when you aren’t healthy. A schedule of exercise and eating right will just make you feel better. Good nutrition helps just about any illness or disease.

Many people in treatment will gain weight. Most need to. It’s like the freshman fifteen in college. But, like many of us, I needed to lose weight when I got sober. So, I just ate better, stopped going to fast food places, cut down on soda and sugar. Nothing crazy, because I was already crazy enough. I’ve lost 80 pounds getting sober and kept it off. You can too.

Just give recovery a fighting chance. Drinking and using, especially in winter is exhausting. It’s a struggle. Everything about it is harder. Try something new.

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